A Communique on Communication

I am not the first person to suggest this, but I think language can be painfully inadequate at expressing what we really intend. The issue arises from all the connotations that words have which restrict them, which make us react to them in very specific ways.

I don’t care, really, about etymology because people do not react emotionally to the dictionary definition of a word like ‘love’ when they hear it. People react based on a number of things, like the speaker, the presence of others, prior use of a word, it’s context, etc. It’s unnecessary to list all the things a word does, and why, I am merely trying to demonstrate all the factors at play in the most important thing to humans – our conversations.

It’s not easy, but everyday people are faced with interpreting what other people are saying to them, what they are ‘really’ saying. Who else might know, what else they know. There’s so much to communicating with others that I don’t know if the problem rests only at the feet of the great Language.

The Language that people have been pretending would fix all the issues of the miscommunication. There’s this idea that language is at fault when someone misinterprets a word, when it’s people who make the mistakes.

But, it’s really impossible to fix this situation without changing people for the worse. Who could pretend that removing the emotional impact from words would make us better? It would make us boring and rather un-nuanced.

Part of the beauty of the fog of language is that you can share it with others. It’s so amazing to have a certain way of talking with a lover, for example. There’s things you say to that person that are so properly put that it makes the rest worth it.

Language, in my opinion, works precisely as it should in these moments – assuming we want it to. Lovers quarrels are borne of poor intentions, of anger and negative emotions rather than what we actually say in these fights.

It’s really a distillation of how you feel, how you are, and that’s the benefit of language. It’s not anything more than a tool for feelings in most situations. I’ts the impact you put in that matters, the meaning and connotations.



I do understand that there’s a lot of linguistic stuff that I’ve not included. I hope that you’d only care about such an omission if my argument has failed. So here’s to hoping.

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